FAMOUS SNARKY LINES OF MY SISTER

1. "I'm so glad you quit SMOKING!"
   
   By the way, the act of quitting smoking she was talking about was when I was a teenager - a full 20 YEARS prior.
   
   Backstory: Never coming up to me privately, intimately and telling me this. No - she trumpets it to anyone and everyone in her living room that day in ~1983 while we all were enjoying a child's birthday party. My two aunts and I were conversing together about cooking or some recipe we tried and liked, and Nancy barges in to our space, interupts us to say..... what? that she loves that recipe too!? No. That she has a recipe she wants to share with us? No. She bellows out in an embarrassing too-obvious fashion that, "I'm so glad you quit SMOKING!" Are we being a little too obvious? Are our attempts at making Beverly look bad a little too obviously self-serving.
   
   My aunts and I just gawked at her! None of us could figure out her timing! LOL!



2. "We have the things that money CAN'T buy" Backstory:



3. "I don't feel any affection for her. Not one iota" Backstory:

I am so disgusted with my sister!

Why? Because of her passive aggression. Because she is a walking Hallmark Card. Because she lies to herself. She actually BELIEVES the spin, the hype that she puts out. The well-placed oh so sincere-looking little smile, the appropriately timed mouth agape face, the rolling eyeballs, the overly-dramatic frown, her thin constipated lips either in a smily-face pose or pursed tightly - all in an obvious attempt to sway people, to register HER imperial view on a given subject, AND to use these silent tactics to sway her targets to her side. These are all non-verbal communication techniques that passive agressive people employ. And because these techniques are so silent, so visceral - they can be powerful. They are sneaky some would say. How she appears to her peeps and the world around her is BY FAR more important than basic virtues. Like respect, sincerity, honesty, compassion, tolerance, love. Like many people of her ilk, she will emphatically tell you, "Of course I love you - you're my sister!" But her actions speak louder than her words. Her actions show her true colors. She has no ability to see things through other people's eyes. She's always right - even when she knows she's wrong. She cannot admit to breaking any moral, spiritual code. She's always right and when she's not, it someone else's fault that she got it wrong. The incident where she wanted to surprise Mom for her birthday. She slipped up on the phone at the end of a phone call between her and Mom, when she said, "OK see you on the twenty fi..r.........." CLICK! She abruptly hung up. Her daughter confirms this interchange when Mom called her, and was asking, rather forcefully, if her mother was planning a visit. I remember some of Nancy's responses, "Well I didn't mean to." "And if I did do it, I didn't mean to." "So she knows??" "you told me you would keep the secret!" Aside: HUH??!!!

It's spooky sometimes - the lack of basic knowledge of right and wrong behavior. And what to do when you're busted. Hint: It's not what you're doing now.

MORE TO FOLLOW.

My Piece of Work "Sister"

My mother is terminally ill. My sister is out here from Butt Crack, Arkansas to help me care for her. She had planned a two week Hawaiian vacay before she learned early this year